We have more control than we know.
Who we are and our lives are a byproduct of our decisions in life. Wherever we are, we put ourselves there. We did it to us. If we don’t like it, change it. We can- we have free will.
I think we all hear quotes, sayings, philosophies constantly and they all sound good, useful, and interesting. Some we internalize for a moment, most we don’t. Few things stick. We then continue on living life the only way we know how- the same we did yesterday. It’s tough to force change within ourselves. It’s so easy to just continue going down the same highway we’ve always gone down.
Change takes a constant and considerable effort. A daily effort and commitment. I think we as individuals in this society don’t take serious and honest inventory of ourselves enough. We want things; we see others have things; we desire things and ideals… yet we don’t study what it will take to achieve those things and attain those things or even if those things are truly in our best interest or healthy for us. We don’t take an honest and in-depth look at ourselves in regards to who we are, who we’ve become, our habits, our strengths, our weaknesses, our distractions and which positive presences we have in life.
People are extremely malleable, more than we can imagine. People though are also inherently lazy, as one of my Marketing professors pointed out in one of my classes in college. We can accomplish most things that we desire but we have to make the effort to understand those things and what it takes to accomplish those things. Many times, we realize that those things come with a great amount of hard work and sacrifice or we begin work towards those goals only to have others tell us of the unlikeliness of accomplishment and so we simply surrender the desires. Yet, when we see others with those things in their lives, we think to ourselves “man, the’re so lucky. how’d they do it? they must be the lucky ones.” Truth is, that person is no different than you. They had a goal, just like yours… only difference being- they went out and pursued it and did what it takes to accomplish. That person could have been you.
Self-inventory is such a big part of doing anything. We need to understand us before we can understand the world and the individual things and people in it. We need to know where we are in life, where we’re headed on the current path and where we actually want to be headed. We need to be honest, not just to others but with ourselves. Be willing to admit the good and the bad from all aspects of our lives- our physical tools, personality characteristics, work ethic, character, efficiency of habits, attitude, etc. Then we really can make that concerted effort to eliminate the bad so we can work towards making the best us as possible and from there make the best effort at reaching our goals. We can change…but only if we understand us, have the true desire to and make the consistent effort to do so. We can change.
Goals are things we pursue that give us great joy and satisfaction.They’re things worth living for and working towards. The sheer fact that you pursue your goals with your best effort should bring you a great amount of pride and satisfaction. Sometimes in life, things outside of our control prevent us from doing certain things. Road blocks get put up. We have to make a decision whether this is something we can overcome or if this forces us to eliminate this goal as feasible and turn to other joys/goals. Sometimes though, the road blocks really are a test of our will and true desire of what we want. If the commitment and love isn’t there then we are more easily swayed. If it is there, our will finds a way to push through/around and march on.
The pursuit is just as enjoyable as the end result and I feel the effort put in is the true indicator of success not necessarily the end result of the effort. Lastly, we should all strive to making the best “me” possible. We can. It’s possible. We just have to commit and do the work.
If you seriously read this, thank you. This is just me throwing some mixed thoughts around without a clear direction and organization maybe. I frequently have thoughts like this but because I have a terrible memory, the thoughts vanish shortly thereafter. This blog at times will serve as the canvas i can quickly sketch my thoughts before i lose the picture I’m imagining in my head.
I think my next blog will have to do with my thoughts on love and the concept of “the one”. Stay tuned! Have a good night…